“HEAR, ye little children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding. For I give unto you good doctrine, forsake ye not my law.
For I was my father’s son, and only beloved in the sight of my mother.
He taught me also, and said unto me, Let thine heart retain my words; keep my commandments and live.
Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not; neither decline (turn away) from the words of my mouth.
Forsake her (wisdom) not, and she shall preserve thee; love her and she shall keep thee. Wisdom is the principal thing: therefore get wisdom; and with all thy getting get understanding.
Exalt her (wisdom), and she shall promote thee: she shall bring thee to honour, when thou dost embrace her. she shall give (place on) thine hand an ornament of grace: a crown of glory she shall deliver unto thee.
Hear, O my son, and receive my sayings; and the years of your life shall be many. I have taught thee in the ways of wisdom; I have lead thee in right paths.
When thou goest, thy steps shall not be straitened (hindered); and when thou runnest, thou shalt not stumble.
Take fast (firm) hold of instruction; let her not go; keep her, for she is thy life. Enter not into the path of the wicked, and go not in the way of evil men.
AVOID IT, pass not it by (do not travel on it), turn from it and pass away.
For they sleep not, except (unless) they have done mischief; and their sleep is taken away unless they cause some to fall.
For they eat the bread of wickedness, and drink the wine of violence.
But the path of the just is as a shining light,(bright light) that shineth more (even brighter) and more unto that perfect day.
The way of the wicked is as darkness; they know not at what they stumble.
My son, attend to my words: incline thine ear unto my sayings.
Let them depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart. For they are life unto those that find them, and health to all their flesh.
Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.
Put away from the a forward (deceitful) mouth, and perverse lips (a bad mouth) put far from thee.
Let thine eyes look right on, and let thine eyelids look straight before thee.
Ponder the path of thy feet, and let all thy ways be established, Turn not to the right hand nor to the left, remove thy foot from evil.” Proverbs 4
Now that my dear friends, you could say is a crash course on Godly advice that was intended not only for believers but in my belief, also for parents to give to their own children and we now that the words from the mouths of parents or parental figures are also the words that truly shape us, make us or unfortunately break us.
That is nothing new and the hatred and lack of common concern one for another that has been passed from one generation seems to have only worsens with time.
It’s devastation more known at the moment, thanks to the technology we now possess but still the same evil that has always been and it lives and it spreads.
It lives and it spreads mainly through the bonds, or rather broken bonds between fathers and children.
For years it was taught for fathers to “rule” with an iron fist and that is still common in many parts of the world and it is sickening.
There is nothing honorable or remotely masculine about any man that teaches hatred, violence, and batters his family. And this was never God’s plan for any of it. He is kind, tender, and beautiful.
Jesus died for all of us, not once did he ask anyone to take his place on the cross, no one else could have, but this was the ultimate act of the Fathers love.
He loves us all and he loves us enough that he came to this earth and died for us.
How can anyone even try to convince another than anything other than respect and kindness toward others could ever ever be something God had designed?
It is not just teaching hatred and bigotry that has so damaged, it is not just the physical abuse that is destructive, it is also the the words and actions that make children feel rejected and unloved that leads to issues and especially in daughters life long challenges that must be to overcome.
My daughter, like most children, found is so delightful as a toddler to “wear” her Dad’s shoes, it was the cutest thing, she’d wander over by the door, where the shoes were kept and suddenly, I see this huge grin and look down and both feet were standing in her Daddy’s shoes and then she would very careful try to walk in these “grown up” shoes.
Her tiny little feet having to lift the weight of those shoes in order to take each step and yet it was a joy to her, because we all have that need inside of us, to “walk” in our parents shoes. I am sure those of you who have children know exactly what I mean, the look of sheer joy that comes to the face of a child once they master a few steps in those shoes. And when you think of this spiritually, as fathers, a man’s shoes can be a delight for their little ones to grow into or they can be ill fitting and cause those children to stumble.
And that choice is completely up to the father.
Does a man want to honour God and love his family as God teaches, or does he want to have a devil may care attitude and think only of himself, or does he leave uncomfortable, awkwardly fitting shoes behind because of indifference toward his family, or is he juts truly at a loss, not knowing how to be a father, maybe having never been taught by his own, so he just does not know what do so he does nothing.
Our verses above give perfect instruction on what to do, what to teach including teaching to AVOID the snares and destruction’s that we can easily fall into in life.
So to all of you Fathers on your special day, NEVER think it is too late! It is NEVER too late until you are dead!
If you have maybe not been a great Dad, talk to you child, even if that child is grown and if they will not listen, write them a letter, and try to make peace and TRY to rebuild that relationship and even if seems there is no hope, keep trying, because LOVE, LOVE conquers all and maybe you won’t see the results of that right off the bat, you may not even see the results before you leave this world BUT there will be results, healing and closure for your child. Knowing that you tried will impact their lives for good even if they NEVER get to the place of forgiveness that they are comfortable sharing those thoughts with you.
And hold your children, love you children, let them see your tears you compassion because if you don’t the weight of trying to grow into your shoes, shoes that are even to big for you, will break them because we are all human and we need to not be afraid to show that, it is much harder to retain your temper and forbearance than it is to burst into an angry rage. I have said this “a hundred times” in these posts and probably will again, but think of Jesus, one of my favorite things about him, he COULD have destroyed the entire world rather than face crucifixion, but in his MERCY, he forgave those who demanded his death.
Rage is easy, swallowing “pride” and responding with mercy and forgiveness not quite as much.
God blesses us in following his word in all areas of our life, and with that stand, STAND for what is right and speak for those who can’t, the Biblical truth concerning violence against women has always been very close to my heart, and I have always believed if men would call out men, concerning it, it would change, just as it is time for the police to police themselves and tear down that code of silence within the brotherhood that has lead to the tragedies we have now, when three stands by while one kills because they are ingrained with the doctrine that there are lines that must not be crossed.
Finally maybe you are reading this and you had a terrible, terrible father rest assured you do not have to mirror him and you do not have to make the same mistakes. You have a heavenly Father who will love you and teach you his ways and help you grow into who he created you to be.
If you are reading this and you are a mother raising your kids alone and there is no way that their father is ever going to be the father they need, you can pray the blessing of God over your children and yourself, you NEED extra help when you are the mother and the father, the breadwinner, homemaker, and every job in between!
Read this passage, memorize this passage, and PRAY verse five (in bold) over you and your children every day.
Psalm 68:1-5: “Let God arise, let his enemies be scattered, let them also that hate him flee before him. As smoke is driven away, so drive them away: as wax melteth before the fire, so let the wicked perish before the presence of God.
But let the righteous be glad; let them rejoice before God: yea, let them exceedingly rejoice. Sing unto God, sing praises to his name: extol him that rideth upon the heavens, by his name JAH, and rejoice before him.
A father of the fatherless, and a judge (DEFENDER) of the widows, is God in his holy habitation.”
Finally, to my Brothers in Christ, HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!
May God bless you and your families and keep praying those blessings for your kids and all the kids who do not have a Godly father to ask those blessing of God for them.
Thanks for reading!
Φλογιζω 2020 ΝBJ//Reverend Nina Brown Johnson
REVISTED 06/16/2021 Happy Father’s Day once again my friends! Have a blessed day!